Nowadays there is a lot of talk about toxic people, toxic relationships, and at the same time many people do not have the communication skills developed in a healthy way to build healthy relationships. Communication skills are very important in building healthy relationships.
Many of our skills are developed throughout life and the family plays an important role in the development of these skills, because once we learn wrong it can be more difficult to let go of our certainties and learn the right way. Communication skills are one of them. And it's not just about having a reasonable command of the language.
When parents are authoritarian they are denying their children the right to learn to communicate healthily and effectively with other people. It can be very comfortable for parents in childhood and adolescence, but if we think about the impact of this on the child and on society, it is a cruel and selfish choice. Especially if the parents, at some point, decide to ignore this completely unprepared child, simply because he turned 18 or finished college, for example.
I've said it in other texts and I'll say it again: parents must be people who support their children in the process of getting to know themselves. And this is only possible when they are genuinely curious to know their children's individuality and experience the process of self-knowledge, preferably being aware of how to identify their own traumas, limiting beliefs and triggers before having children.
Therefore, parents, before having children, must develop their own communication skills to be able to offer their children the conditions to communicate clearly, deal appropriately with their own emotions, and build healthy relationships throughout their lives, starting with the relationship between young children and their parents.
When your repertoire is limited and it seems like “everyone” does something the same way, that doesn’t mean that’s the best way.
Do you have the right tools to have effective and healthy communication?
Observing how you react in situations where “negative” emotions like fear, anxiety and frustration are in control can give you some clues about your communication skills. Your defence tools may be sabotaging this ability.
The way you start your romantic relationships and how you manage communication with your partner also says a lot about how much you may be neglecting this skill, which is crucial in building healthy relationships.
How you deal with making and maintaining friendships, your behaviour in the job selection process, your communication skills at work and in various other situations also say a lot about you and your communication skills.
Discover and hire my services to improve your communication. In adult life, correcting what your parents were not competent to teach in the best way is your obligation and communication skills are essential for life in society and for achieving success in everything. I'm here to contribute to your personal development.
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Nycka Nunes
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