This is a text about the role of fathers and mothers in relation to their children. Some reflections. And I would like your participation in the comments with your feedback, and bringing things that you learned in your process of self-knowledge.
I think the role of fathers and mothers is to be their children's spiritual guides, people they can trust as they explore the world and seek to know themselves.
A young child doesn't need you to dictate rules. (S)He needs love and care to discover what (s)he likes and doesn't like, to understand how much (s)he can eat without anyone forcing him/her to eat beyond his/her capacity, to discover his/her natural talents, etc. A small child also needs his/her parents to support him/her when (s)he makes mistakes, because only those who try make mistakes. Those who don't make mistakes are because they've never tried something.
The role of fathers and mothers is mainly to show their children that they are loved as they are, not because they got a good grade at school or were obedient.
Some families tend to objectify children and act as if they are only valuable if they are obedient and never make mistakes. Not even dog training nowadays is based on reward and punishment, but this is still the path of some parents who seek what is most comfortable for them and not what is best for their children. The best thing for children is to always have their individuality respected, if necessary with parents stripping themselves of their paradigms and certainties, as that human being is not a replica of them. A parent who ignores this creates trauma that can take a long time to heal.
What were your parents like when you were a child and teenager? What are the pros and cons that you perceive of them treating you the way they treated you? If you have children, how do you treat them? Do you repeat your parents' formula? How have you dealt with your traumas and limitations so far? How committed are you to knowing yourself?
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Nycka Nunes
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