This is a text to demystify ethical non-monogamous relationships, including polyamory. If you know a person who prefers ethical non-monogamous relationships or if you are a person who has this preference and cannot explain it to those who see themselves as monogamous due to lack of knowledge about other possibilities, read until the end, share and follow my profiles on social networks for more content. It is also useful as an introduction to the topic for people who know me, personally or virtually, and have no knowledge about ethical non-monogamous relationships.
I'm Nycka Nunes and on this blog and on my social media I talk about a variety of topics, generally related to personal development and broadening one's horizons.
People are used to thinking that we can only love one person at a time, and they think of love for a boyfriend or girlfriend as something essentially different from the love we feel for dear friends or family. And they see romantic relationships as a ladder or a series of steps. It is common for women to see marriage and children as life goals, but with each new generation such goals become more distant from the priorities of younger people, possibly due to the rigid and unnatural model of relationships in previous generations and because divorces are not a great inspiration. to marry. More information means more options and more informed decisions.
The way I see ethical non-monogamous relationships, including polyamory, and if you received the link to this text from someone, possibly they have a similar view to mine on the subject, is that love is equal, whether it is love for a boyfriend, a friend or a dear family member. In the case of romantic relationships, there is the addition of sexual attraction and compatibility, and any other criteria you have for dating someone.
Let's think about the issue of compatibility from other angles to make it clearer.
All of us, monogamous or not, have a variety of friends with different profiles. We have those friends who are great at accompanying us to shows of our favourite bands. And those with whom it's good to talk about books or films. We have those friends who console and advise us when we have problems in romantic relationships. And several other profiles. Trying to force friends to be great friends at all times is a waste of time because each person has their own strengths and limitations. Yes, we can have friends who are great for a variety of circumstances. But not all of them are like that and that doesn't diminish the value of any of them.
In romantic relationships, for those who live polyamory, we can also love different people simultaneously, because each person is unique and has different characteristics from the others. Each person has different qualities and different limitations, whether in the sexual field or outside of it. Although most people are “vanilla” (they have a certain sexual standard with a very limited repertoire of practices compared to the countless possibilities that exist), and this reduces the options for sexual differences, more due to lack of knowledge than by choice, still, the personal characteristics are different.
Even due to legal unfeasibility, because many countries only allow monogamous marriages, those seeking ethical non-monogamous relationships tend not to see the relationship as a sequence of steps. The relationship with each individual is a building towards getting to know each other better day by day, and this may or may not result in marriage or children.
If you analyse the phase of literary romanticism you will see that romantic love is not the most inspiring thing in the world. It's great that we can evolve, seek self-knowledge and develop healthier relationships.
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